• 27
  • October
    2011

There is no doubt that there are some people in Denver who think it is too easy to get a divorce these days. It is equally certain that some Denver residents know that, no matter what, some relationships cannot be saved and believe people should be free to move on with their lives if they wish.

Those opposing schools of thought mean there might be some controversy over a piece of anti-divorce legislation drafted by a group of people who want to add "speed bumps" to the divorce process. The "Second Chances Act" has not been adopted by any state yet, including Colorado, but its supporters are promoting it across the country in hopes that state legislatures will take up the issue.

The idea behind the Second Chances Act is that couples might be less likely to divorce if they have to slow down and think about the process. It calls for a letter advising a spouse that divorce is right around the corner, a "cooling-off" period and reconciliation training. It would be waived in certain circumstances like adultery, substance abuse or domestic violence. Its advocates say it would be especially beneficial for children because it raises the possibility that their families could remain intact.

While it is true that no one should rush into a divorce, it is also true that sometimes, it is better for everyone if a husband and wife do not stay together. Divorce does not have to be as taxing as some people say it is, but there is no way it is ever going to be free of emotional pain. The Second Chances Act might draw out what is already an emotionally draining ordeal and make it even harder for people to move on.

What do you think? Do you believe it is a good idea to make people stop and think before getting a divorce? Or do you think people are adults and can be trusted to think through it on their own?

Source: The Washington Times, "Divorce-prevention plan advises time, talk," Cheryl Wetzstein, Oct. 23, 2011